At one thirty a.m. that night, I still couldn’t sleep.  It’s an odd feeling—so much drama and the 911 calls, and the flashing lights—all of it with the goal of putting those two kids behind bars.  As I was putting my kids to bed, my seven year old said proudly “Did you hear, mom, the policeman said that without you they wouldn’t have been able to put the robbers in jail!”

Success!

The next day I was sitting, head down, staring into space.  Thinking that stealing a car and getting away with it is probably even worse for a kid than stealing a getting in mounds of trouble, but…

Gary looked over and said “There’s words for the thing you’re looking for, you know.”

"What?"  I asked.

"The words.  For what would have been better.  It’s called Restorative Justice."

I’m glad they have those words.  Because it turns out “catching” is a terrible word.  It’s become about chasing and punishment and “robbers”.

Catching.  I wish it meant like you do when someone is falling.

It is not satisfying at all to be responsible for putting someone in jail.  I would way rather be responsible for keeping them out.

"The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that’s why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they’ve really done is they’ve shifted their relationship with time."

— Caroline Myss (via commondense)

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punabot: Good one!

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A group of Christians showed up at a Chicago pride parade in July.





They were holding up signs saying “I’m sorry that Christians judge you”





“I’m sorry for how the churches treated you” and “I used to be a bible-banging homophobe, I’m sorry”

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A group of Christians showed up at a Chicago pride parade in July.

They were holding up signs saying “I’m sorry that Christians judge you”

“I’m sorry for how the churches treated you” and “I used to be a bible-banging homophobe, I’m sorry”

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“I will not apologise for the things that should never be apologised for.  It is a little theory of mine that has much exercised my mind lately, that most of the problems of this silly and delightful world derive from our apologising for those things which we ought not to apologise for, and failing to apologise for those things for which apology is necessary… I will apologise for faithlessness, neglect, deceit, cruelty, unkindness, vanity and meanness, but I will not apologise for the urgings of my genitals nor, most certainly, will I ever apologise for the urgings of my heart.”-Stephen Fry

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“I will not apologise for the things that should never be apologised for. It is a little theory of mine that has much exercised my mind lately, that most of the problems of this silly and delightful world derive from our apologising for those things which we ought not to apologise for, and failing to apologise for those things for which apology is necessary… I will apologise for faithlessness, neglect, deceit, cruelty, unkindness, vanity and meanness, but I will not apologise for the urgings of my genitals nor, most certainly, will I ever apologise for the urgings of my heart.”-Stephen Fry

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