His thoughts were interrupted by the two women at the table in front of him.
“I can’t believe he said that in church,” Margaret said, shaking her head.
“Didn’t you know he was gay?” Emily asked.
“I’d heard something about it. I just don’t see why people have to talk about it like that,” Margaret said. “I don’t care what people do, but why do they have to talk about it all the time? It used to be that people just kept it to themselves. I mean, I’m heterosexual. You don’t see me going around advertising who I have sex with.” She looked at Paul, expecting his agreement.
“That’s a nice wedding ring you have,” he said. “Excuse me.”
— excerpt from the novel Angel by Laura Lee
"We name and talk of a problematic ‘transvestism,’ the desire to dress in the clothes of the other sex. We do not usually name and speak of the strong desire to dress in the clothes of one’s own sex. But why would most of us feel intense anxiety at dressing publicly in the clothes of the other sex? Does not our fervid desire to dress in the clothes of our own sex suggest a mystery to be explored? We name and speak of a troublesome ‘transsexualism,’ the feeling of being the other sex… We do not name and talk much about the feeling of being the same sex— the sex we think we are, the sex most of us desire to stay. But does not our feeling relatively comfortable with our sex, and our intense desire to maintain the integrity of our sex, indicate something that needs to be explained…yet the deep desire possessing some of us to dress in the clothes of our own sex, and the profound conviction of some of us that we feel like the sex we are— if we think about these emotions— are quite as puzzling and complex as transvestism and transsexualism."
— Jonathan Ned Katz, The Invention of Heterosexuality